Structuring home life with children

Over a year ago, someone asked me to write my advice for someone who was a new homeschooler. I haven’t talked about homeschool on this blog in many years, but I had an interesting moment this morning where I not only remembered this email, but felt a strong urge to post it here.

I think most of these points apply to anyone trying to structure home life with children, especially during the summer, so take what you need, and forget the rest.


1. Pray first thing as a family every day. Establish routines for start time, subjects, breaks, and lunch. Consider scripture time a daily subject.

2. Do things regularly with other families. It is good that kids play with children of all ages.

3. Choose a curriculum strong in language arts and math. Have a plan for the year, each month, week, and every day.

4. Steel yourself to criticism from those who don’t understand what you are accomplishing.

5. Go on dates with your husband without the kids.

6. Fill your house with books of all kinds and read, read, read together and independently.

7. Find a friend with whom you can share your experiences so school and children aren’t the only things you talk about with your husband.

8. Plan unstructured time for kids to explore their own interests. Their interests can propel their desire to read, write, and learn how to be proactive learners.

9. Celebrate achievements with certificates or stickers or whatever makes your kids happy. Don’t feel like you have to mirror a public school classroom with big charts, etc. You can do simple, meaningful things to track progress.

10. Go outside together or do crafts when things get too intense in the house.

11. Explore nature, go to museums, run and play, visit the elderly, take art classes, make collections together. Some of the best advice I received was to play with playdough with my children. Your children will need to help around the house, too. You can’t do everything yourself.

12. Look at every subject as a means to increase reading and writing skills.

13. Take pictures and cherish the time together. Don’t broadcast everything on social media. Honor your children’s privacy in learning and development.

14. Listen for and expect the Lord to lead you in small things and big things. Heavenly Father is even more interested in helping your children progress than you are, so be willing to accept answers that aren’t part of your original plan.

15. You can contact me if you want to talk. I was a homeschool mom for 14 years.


Art by Paige, around 2010

A supplement idea for a boy’s curriculum

Timothy learns to change a bike tire.

 

Years ago a home school friend told me how amazing the Cub Scout and Boy Scout programs are as an educational tool. I never thought much about it until a few months ago when Timothy came up to me and told me that he wanted to earn his Bear Cub Scout rank faster than he had earned his Wolf. He had a plan for when he would work on it. He figured that since he was only required to write 3 journal entries a week, he could use the other 2 days normally dedicated to journal time to focus on Cub Scout requirements.

I love the initiative he showed here. We’ve been following his plan to work twice a week on Cub Scouts outside his normal Cub Scout meetings. Timothy is not my first Cub Scout, but I have discovered that my hesitant writer and artist will tackle all kinds of projects for scouts that he wouldn’t want to tackle if it were just for school.

I discovered that the requirements for our English program mirror some of the Cub Scout requirements to write a report and compose letters. The historical characters and locations tie in to our history studies. It’s a good supplement and Timothy likes the little badges and belt loops.

I have discovered that the Scouting program for older boys is also very good because it teaches Daniel to take the initiative and I like that a mentor (a merit badge counselor) helps him through each merit badge. Writing, leadership, reading, and research are great supplemental activities to what I try to teach at school, and you can’t beat the incentive of merit badges.

Which reminds me, I am very behind in attaching all of those merit badges. Scouting keeps me on my toes, too, which is why I fully deserve those mother’s pins they give out when a boy achieves a rank.

Composers

The study of music is something I leave to our expert piano teacher because she can do a better job than I can. However, I have found a few supplements which have enriched our history, language, and music studies.

My friend bought this book of composers in Europe, but I’m sure it’s not exclusive. It groups musicians by period and discusses their country of origin, family life, etc. It’s a good little reference book. As we study history I like to focus on individuals, not just events. Learning about composers is a nice way to talk about culture, history, and language. This month we are focusing on German composers for a presentation the kids will give at the library.

These books on CD are popular with the kids, especially Daniel. There is a narration of the composer’s life and excerpts from his works throughout. These are an hour long and they are easy history lessons. They are also a fun introduction to the works of the great composers. I don’t know, but there is something right about a child getting excited when he hears a famous symphony on the radio and says, “I know that song!”

Grieg, Schumann, Sousa, and Chopin are the favorites from this series.

Our kids enter a piano composition contest each year. It’s the best exercise in music theory that I know. I love hearing what they write. Paige wrote a waltz and sarabande this year. Daniel wrote a theme and variations. Timothy wrote an A-B-A theme. We get the results from the judges this week.

Now, if I can just commission a bust made of each of my own little composers, my shelf would be complete.

Shakespeare study

 

It’s almost the end of third term and I am so excited to read Shakespeare next term. I found this series to be helpful for the young children. I’ve added a few more favorites to my Shakespeare how-to list.

1. The Oxford School Shakespeare Series: Wow. This series is excellent. Within each book, you’ll find introductory materials which cover relevant historical matters and some commentary about themes, as well as a detailed synopsis of the play. The play itself has excellent side notes and illustrations (which are easier to access than footnotes) and scene summaries. After the play, there are additional notes for further study and classroom discussion and projects. For secondary school years, this is very, very helpful.

A disciplined student who studied all of the introductory material could tackle Shakespeare’s plays on their own and be conversant about themes, characters, and history. I’m always looking for something which will require significant effort from the students but also make it possible to successfully navigate on their own. Of course we’ll probably read the plays aloud and we’ll definitely discuss themes and I will ask for essays, but excellent learning needn’t require constant lecturing from me.

2. William Shakespeare by Rosie Dickins: For elementary students, (and I admit I learned a lot, too) this illustrated history of Shakespeare’s life and times is just a joy. It’s accessible for young people, the illustrations are delightful, and it makes history fun. Timothy really loved this during his second grade year.

3. The Wednesday Wars by Gary Schmidt: For the Shakespeare faint of heart. And most of us are. This Newbery Honor book takes place during the Vietnam War and follows a young man in Junior High who finds himself the only Protestant student in his homeroom, which means he and his teacher must find something to do when all of the Catholics and Jews leave school early for religious studies. His teacher decides that they will study Shakespeare. As told by this young man, the story is full of preteen angst and attitude, but through his study of Shakespeare (The Tempest, Macbeth, Romeo and Juliet, Julius Caesar, and Hamlet), he discovers that these plays help him better understand humanity and find his way through his problems. My older kids loved this book. It makes you excited to read Shakespeare for yourself and not just for your teacher. Thanks, Mom, for the recommendation.

2/3

We went to a Be Smart CES fireside last night to hear representatives from Church schools discuss what it takes to be admitted. It was inspiring. Most information presented was not applicable to home schoolers, though. As I looked around the room, there were many of us there, hoping for a more information.

I talked to the recruiter after the meeting and learned that all of the records, hour logs, lab notebooks, carefully and honestly scored tests, assignments, papers, literature lists, and carefully-selected textbooks will not really be considered. For home schoolers (using a non-accredited curriculum), two thirds of the selection process will come down to an ACT or SAT score. Period. The other third will be extra-curriculars and other factors: ecclesiastical endorsement, music, (dance), leadership, service, and “unique” factors (which I hope will include a perusal of our work). A home schooled student will need to have a 27 on the ACT to be considered for BYU. Now for BYU Idaho, they want to see a GED, which is a little insulting, but it can be done.

This ratio was a surprise to me. I always knew I didn’t “count” as a teacher or an institution, but that 2/3 of the measure comes down to one score takes my breath away.  But I will continue to keep good records. I will ask more questions of college admissions offices. We’ll definitely prepare for the ACT and SAT tests. And I will eat chocolate…lots and lots of chocolate.

I share this to be helpful, not to invite criticism or pity. I’m off to teach some classes which don’t count, but will ultimately prove helpful in building individuals of substance and character.

 

2011-2012 School books

I’ve decided to share some of our curriculum choices because it’s what some readers want to see. If you’re not interested in school books, you can enjoy the poppy picture. Most of my curriculum ideas have come from The Well Trained Mind by Jessie Wise and Susan Wise Bauer.

Mark’s books (Kindergarten):

  • Phonics Pathways by Dolores G. Hiskes
  • Math workbooks (various, including Saxon)
  • Math-It games for math facts
  • The Usborne Complete First Book of Nature
  • Easy Phonics Readers

Timothy’s books (3rd Grade)

  • English for the Thoughtful Child 2
  • Spelling Workout C
  • Saxon math 3
  • Exploring Creation with Zoology (I don’t love Apologia books and I skip the bothersome sections.)
  • Story of the World vol 3
  • I’m still planning his literature study. I still have a few days before school begins!!

Daniel’s books (7th grade):

TITLE:

God’s Gift of Language C grammar

Author/Publisher:

A Beka

Writing Strands 4-5 National Writing Inst.
Spelling Workout f-g
Don Quixote Michael Harrison
“A Voyage to Lilliput,” “ A Voyage to Brobdingnag” from Gulliver’s Travels Jonathan Swift
Hans Brinker or the Silver Skates Mary Dodge
A Pilgrim’s Progress John Bunyan
Robinson Crusoe Daniel Defoe
Poems of William Wordsworth
The Rime of the Ancient Mariner Samuel Coleridge
The Legend of Sleepy Hollow Rip Van Winkle
The Pied Piper of Hamelin Robert Browning
Grimms Fairy Tales
Autobiography of Ben Franklin, the Way to Wealth Franklin
Alice in Wonderland Lewis Caroll
The Adventures of Tom Sawyer Mark Twain
Oliver Twist Charles Dickins
A Christmas Carol Charles Dickins
“The Raven” Edgar Allen Poe
Toliver’s Secret Ester Wood Brady
Caddie Woodlawn Carol Ryrie Brink
My Brother Sam is Dead James Lincoln Collier
The Courage of Sarah Noble Alice Dalgliesh
Algebra ½ Saxon
Kingfisher History Encyclopedia
Learning Through History magazines: American Revolution, Civil War
Critical Thinking Press book 1 Colonies to Constitution
Critical Thinking Press book 2 New Republic to Civil War
Story of the World vol 3 Bauer
Exploring Creation: General Science Wile
Rosetta Stone Spanish 1
typing tutor software

Paige’s books (10th grade):

TITLE

Confessions (selected books)

Author/Publisher

Saint Augustine

Beowulf
Inferno Dante, tr. Pinsky
The Once and Future King White
Sir Gawain and the Green Knight Tolkien
The Canterbury Tales ed. McCaughrean
The Prince Machiavelli
Utopia More
The Faerie Queene selections from book 1 Spenser
A Midsummer Night’s Dream Shakespeare
Hamlet Shakespeare
Henry V Shakespeare
The Timetables of History Grun
A Short History of Western Civilization, 8th ed. Sullivan
Janson’s History of Art: The Middle Ages Davies, …
A Day in the Life of Old Rome
Stearnes
Inevitable Apostasy and Promised Restoration Callister
The Magna Charta Dougherty
Empires Lost and Won Marrin
Writing Strands 8 National Writing Inst
A Beka Grammar and Composition Abeka
Advanced Mathematics: Geometry, Trigonometry, Algebra III Saxon
Exploring Creation through Chemistry Wile
Old Testament
Deutsch Aktuell EMC publishing
Rosetta Stone German 2

Paige’s Foreign Language

German  seemed the perfect choice for Paige when we discussed languages because our neighbor and mother of her best friend is from Germany. Paige has used Rosetta Stone but also receives tutoring from our neighbor, Heike twice a week. Heike’s daughter and another home school friend also take lessons. The girls are 14-15 years old and they have enjoyed a great year of German lessons together. They use the textbook, Deutsch Aktuell.

On Friday, the three girls did some presentations for their families. They each made a relief map of Germany and presented them in German. Next, they shared presentations about German composers. Paige chose C.P.E. Bach and then performed the piece, Solfeggietto on the piano. The other girls played pieces by Beethoven and J.S. Bach. It felt very Jane Austen having the young ladies play the piano for the company.

Here is Paige with Mark putting the finishing touches on her map of Germany.

And here are the girls giving their group presentation:

Once the presentations were complete, we ate an authentic German meal which involved a lot of cream and all other good things. What a lovely evening.

So, we started school

picasso daniel

I don’t share everything on this blog. It’s just what comes to mind when I sit down at the computer. I realized I didn’t mention a pretty major development in our lives. We started school last Monday. Yes, Mr/Ms. Reader, we did. I teach 8th grade, 5th grade, and 1st grade. I like all these grades and love all of my students. Here’s a list of some of the things we did during this school week:

  • Studied archaeology, made pictures and diagrams and wrote summaries.
  • Studied the Great Depression using The Story of the World and Learning Through History Magazine. Wrote essays about the Stock Market Crash of 1929. Sat up late at night talking about stock market and the Great Depression. If you ever need a good source for the Great Depression, check out the book, When the Banks Closed, We Opened Our Hearts, published by Readers Digest. It’s full of personal accounts of people’s lives as they lived through these years. It’s an uplifting book, reminding us that hard times can bring out the best in people.
  • Worked problems in Algebra 1, Math 65 (Saxon), and Singapore Math grade 1.
  • Worked on Vocabulary studies with Wordly Wise and Spelling studies through Spelling Workout books. No grammar this week; we can look forward to that next week :).
  • Attended piano lessons. Paige had 3, Daniel had 2.
  • picasso paigeAttended an art lesson about Picasso. Learned about his life and styles from a guest artist.
  • Read for hours and hours.
  • Opened up Rosetta Stone German lessons and moved through the first section of lessons at lightning speed.
  • Studied astronomy and the endocrine system, each a marvel. We use Apologia science textbooks, but skip some parts in them.
  • Had to postpone our Hamlet reading, but we will finish next week.
  • Wrote the classic essays, “What I did on my summer vacation” because I wish even ONE of my teachers had asked me to do this when I was young.
  • picasso page 2Created Picasso-style paintings and drawings in art class and at home.
  • Painted with oils at home. I painted, too. Someday we’ll share our paintings. Paige painted the Mesa Temple; I painted a robin near a nest. I still need to paint in the babies. Paige has some more work, too.
  • picasso paige 3Played with playdough. We made igloos, cookies, cinnamon rolls, and other amazing things.
  • Played with friends in the afternoons after school. I don’t like to mix friends with most school subjects…too much social pressure when you’re trying to think.
  • Attended ballet lessons (3).
  • Copied lots of things for handwriting practice.

# of teachers: 5

# of students: 3

Now, this is a great student-to-teacher ratio.

Top 5 Day 5: Teach the Children

I’m a philosophical person. I like grappling with ideas, challenging preconceptions and discovering truth by looking hard at things. Even in high school I picked a fight (with a written essay) challenging my AP English teacher over his (poor moral) choice of literature to study. In Junior High, I stood up for the less privileged west side of Provo in a scathing essay (which my teacher asked me to read aloud), telling the kids from the wealthier east side that they should have been more friendly to me when I ventured over to sit at their cool table. But that’s a little off topic now, isn’t it? I’m still rebellious against the norm, willing to be a little different because of what I believe.

In my senior year at BYU, just before student teaching, I took Religion 491 for education majors. This was the most misunderstood, frustrating course for most people. This book, now one of my favorites, was the textbook. It was a chore to read because most of us came into the class expecting a free ride. Hey, we were seniors; it was a religion class…how hard could it be?  Neil J. Flinders (the author) was the teacher.  This book must have been for him the culmination of a lifelong study of education, religion, history, psychology and management.

This book outlines the decline of moral and religious teaching over time; discusses age appropriate teaching methods; gives concrete examples from the Bible and Book of Mormon and Doctrine & Covenants showing how teaching ought to be accomplished; it identifies 4 different approaches to education (Individual, Societal, Theological, and Agency); it challenges a lot of what I learned in my teaching methods classes because so much educational theory is based on a godless worldview. There is so much in this book that it’s hard to describe it in a neat and tidy synopsis.

How have I applied what I learned in this book?

  • Well, for one thing, the book reminds us that parents need to step up and teach their children. No, this is not a homeschool book! Remember, it was written as a textbook for people going out to teach in public schools. This means that we can all be Agency educators, no matter what school our children attend.
  • Next, when I decided I wanted to homeschool, I looked around for curriculum. Using this book as a guide, I researched many methods. I realized that this author was right. All curriculum choices fall into one of 4 categories (ok, sometimes it’s a mixture). Many homeschoolers choose Theological method. They believe school, taught from a religious worldview is the tops. That’s good… to an extent, but if such curriculum ignores the needs of an individual and an individual’s right to choose, it’s still not ideal. Classical education is a Societal method. Its goal is to prepare students for the marketplace; to defend their positions through logic and rhetoric learned through drill and intensive study. This is good, in its own way, but it lacks something when the individual’s agency, talents and character education are ignored. The Unschooling movement follows the Individualist model, where the focus is on the individual’s needs above the interests of the group. To me, unschooling stems from an unhealthy worship of the child above God. The individualist model places the ideas and whims of the child above what is moral; what is true; and what God expects parents to teach. The Individualist movement is an extension of the hippie culture into the mainstream. There is an element of truth in the Individualist model, because a good education should be individualized, but not at the expense of truth or some kind of order. We’ve seen the devastating effects of ignoring individuals in schools today. I haven’t met a parent yet who has good things to say about TAKS testing or AIMS testing. Practices that ensure group success so often fail individuals (think of the No Child Left Behind Act).
  • I try to use the Agency model of education. I have expectations; I have lists for my kids; I use Theological textbooks, Societal textbooks, and even some days look a lot like Unschooling around here. However, in agency education, all of the subjects we study are not ends unto themselves. They are the means by which we teach our children to develop different capacities. Math teaches logical and deductive reasoning; Arts develop the aesthetic sense and appreciation for God’s creations; History teaches us how to analyze and find patterns… AGENCY implies CHOICE, so truth is taught, but then the individual chooses to act. Most curricula have a goal to see that we learn the subject matter. There are learning and behavioral objectives. Character and capacity objectives are overlooked as educators look to raise test scores and have a measurable outcome. My ultimate goal doesn’t revolve around a GPA. The goal of Agency education is to see that the individual has guided, structured courses aimed to help the individual fulfill the mission God has for him. You can’t measure Agency education by comparing students. The true measure of agency education is the quality of individual it produces.

Be warned that this book is not as organized as I would have it. Like I said before, it is so full that it’s hard to nail everything down. Also, don’t expect this book to tell you everything you need to know to achieve Agency Education. It reminds us of principles and it shares examples of Agency educators and parents to inspire us, but it would go against its own thesis to give an outline of everything an agency educator does.  To me, an Agency educator is above all things led by the Spirit. So if anything, agency education centers on character. All subjects, activities, methods, etc. are just appendages to character education.

I could go on about this for a long time. But let me leave you with a summary of what the author thinks an Agency Educator’s home looks like and feels like:

  • family learns together
  • family prays together
  • scripture study is important
  • there is a schedule in the home for bedtime, chores, etc.
  • the home is orderly
  • the family gathers for dinner and good conversation around the table
  • family members avoid contention
  • the family is happy
  • children are taught to take responsibility for themselves
  • there is a feeling of safety in the home
  • books are read more than television & computer games are used
  • there is a feeling of cooperation and understanding
  • talents are nurtured and encouraged through family activities, individual practice times, etc.
  • character is taught through work, study, service, prayer, and outside activities

So, this book is out of print, but we live in the day of e-bay and amazon.com, so if you really are interested, you’ll be able to find it. I’ve recommended this book for years. Not everyone agrees with me that the book is great. Nor does everyone have the time to read it. That’s why I spent some time writing this post. And now you know just how long-winded I can be. To tell you the truth, I feel like I’ve just scratched the surface and given you a teaser. Most of you are probably asleep or have moved on to facebook or youtube by now. If so, this book is probably not for your personality anyway. It’s philosophy. It’s challenging. It’s what I love to read.

Top 5 Day 4:The Well Trained Mind

This Educational Resource is on my top 5 list because it outlines very clearly how to educate a children at different ages. I don’t agree with everything in this book, but here is a list of books I use because they were recommended by the authors:

  • Saxon Math
  • Writing Strands
  • Abeka Grammar
  • English for the Thoughtful Child
  • The Story of the World (History)
  • Spelling Workout Series
  • Mudpies to Magnets Science books
  • Kingfisher History Encyclopedia, Kingfisher Science Encyclopedia
Here are educational methods and subjects that I teach because I like this book:
  • copy work
  • dictation
  • narration
  • outlining
  • timelines
  • memory work
  • compositions
  • language study in the elementary school years (They recommend Latin. We’re going for German and Spanish)
  • history notebooks full of drawings, writing, timelines, and maps
  • language notebooks full of rules, spelling lists, exercises, memory work and compositions
  • classic literature
  • logic (I’ll start this in the 2009-2010 school year… I promise!)

This book gives me a framework and specific texts to work with. From there, I adapt the curriculum to meet our needs, beliefs, and schedules. This is my How-To Guide. Tomorrow I’ll tell you about the book that really shapes my educational philosophy.