A gift, freely and meekly given

Last spring I decided to search out one of my favorite teachers, Mr. H.who taught me to play the violin for 6 years. I learned that he passed away in February of 2008. His online obituary listed his accomplishments. I was surprised at what I read because he had never really shared his credentials with us.

He did post-graduate work at Juilliard and obtained a master’s degree from Columbia University, though he never mentioned it.

He taught in the Bronxville Public School System for 25 years. I heard him casually refer to this.

He taught in my home town public schools for 11 years.

He played in the Utah Symphony.

The first time I met him, he was wearing plaid pants and going around to the 5th grade classrooms, playing something on the violin to entice children to join the elementary orchestra. The tune was lively and he tapped his big foot on the floor as he played. His thin white hair grew disheveled with his movements. I was enchanted. The next week I began my years of carrying a violin to and from school.

I have had several violin teachers and played in many orchestras, but Mr. H was the steady influence in my music training.

There were many adventures. There was the day when we took advantage of his good nature and asked if he would bring us some ice cream. He said he was out of cash and showed us his wallet. One spunky student grabbed the wallet and pulled out a check for something like $15,000 from the sale of one of his instruments. He chuckled and then set off to the ice cream shop where he bought each of us a large sundae.

My favorite year was in 9th grade when I was in an ensemble group that met at 7 am. I can still remember his expression once we mastered a piece. He was so happy.

The last time I met him was in 1994 when I went to his home to play a quartet with some old high school friends. He entertained us and gave advice. He told me that I needed to keep playing, even though I had decided not to major in music.

As is often the case when we lose someone we care about, I find that my mind now focuses differently on this man who spent 36 years teaching children to play stringed instruments. His story is the kind that could inspire a screenplay. He must have taught thousands of students. What a gift he shared.

I feel like I owe a few children in my a life a piece of that gift that was given to me so freely and meekly. Until I fulfill this obligation, I’ll treasure the gift and try to keep fiddling.

BSA turns 100

Our Blue and Gold Banquet is almost ready for guests. Happy 100th Birthday, Boy Scouts of America.

Three of Daniel’s Webelos Craftsman projects on display: soldered copper man, wood-burned and stained box, wood stool.

Tacos? Burritos? Beans and Rice?

Mark tries to break the pinata.

Daniel’s killer swing breaks the pinata!

Holiday happenings

These flowers are beautiful and they are from my valentine. Timothy and I lovingly dissected one for science yesterday.

I spoke in church on Sunday about embracing family responsibilities. Now I’m bombarded with events that are challenging my will to focus on my family, but we’ll make it through this uncommonly stressful week. We’ll eat some fast food and go to bed late a few times. It’s science fair and Blue and Gold Banquet week!

I spent Sunday finishing Wives and Daughters by Elizabeth Gaskell. Sigh. I read 800 pages to only see the heroine wave good-bye to her love as he went off to Africa. The screenplay captures all the good and adds a marriage that the book only implies. Summary: Just watch the BBC version and skip the novel.

My kids are taking this opportunity while I sneak a computer minute to watch a DVD in French and in slow motion. The laughter is without restraint here.

I’m judging a science fair tonight. Daniel is entering a project where he made 12 modifications to a pinewood derby car to see which modifications best improve the speed. We spent a lot of time over the weekend racing cars on the pinewood derby track and teaching him how to make graphs from a spreadsheet.

One of us is sick. Most of us are happy. The boys are making a dirt mountain in the backyard. Daniel’s cousin asked in dismay, “Why did your parents let you DO that?”

I don’t have an answer for that, but it seems like a very healthy thing for boys to do, don’t you think?

Monkey Muses

These monkeys make me smile.

It’s been that kind of week, people. Can it get any more crazy around here?

Reports, experiments, valentines, bike riding, park day, ballet, Cub Committe work, sign-up sheets, an advertising project, extra piano lessons, hiring a new art teacher, e-mails… and through the din I hear my voice in a muffled, tunnel-like echo saying,

“Let’s start working on The Iliad tomorrow!”

(As if Homer’s pathos, hubris,  and other epic themes have anything to add to the life we lead.)

But these Monkey Muses sing on in my head, “Keep reading! Keep writing! Keep creating! This is the time of your life!”

…And of course, they are perfectly correct.

Sing on, Monkey Muses in my head, sing on.

Loss of a friend

A friend passed away last night after a battle with cancer. I met her soon after moving here with her cute flipped hair and 3 beautiful children. I will never have the right words to say to her family and very close friends who are grieving.

We made a card for her on Friday; a card that she will never read. Last night as I cleaned the kitchen at bedtime I thought about her and felt such peace and gratitude that she graced my life. This was just before the call came that she passed away. I like to think that friends who pass away are allowed say their good-byes to us, although we are unaware of their presence except for a gentle comfort that comes to our hearts. I am grateful for the continual source of peace and comfort, our Savior Jesus Christ. “Surely he hath borne our griefs and carried our sorrows.”

It was a confusing night; I think I fell asleep in the middle of a prayer, only to awaken every other hour to continue that prayer for her family… and for all those who love her.

Good-bye, Tracy. I’ll make sure your children always feel loved when I see them.

No, we didn’t buy mouse ears

… but we had a swell time.

We never got a picture all together, but we enjoyed one day with everyone well enough to be there.

Daniel, our most adventurous boy, went on everything. Twice.

Paige had a good time, too, and was so helpful.

Timothy had a rough start on a terrifying ride, but overcame his fears and loved the rides as long as they didn’t plunge too suddenly into a dark abyss.

This was our first trip to Disneyland. Now, maybe it’s because I am adult, but these were some observations I just couldn’t reconcile in my mind:

A grandmother on the Dumbo ride; all by herself,

Mouse ears on grown-ups,

Reservations to eat with the Princesses are required 18 months in advance????

Darth Vader and Disney,

Leaving a stroller full of our belongings and not really worrying about theft,

LOVING the It’s a Small World Ride and WANTING to see Princess Aurora.

Being sentimental, I teared up as soon as I saw all the kids on a ride together, but in my haste to hide the tears, I brushed sunblock into my eye and then I really had something to cry about. It was a day of contradictions. I was amused at the childhood played out by adults, but succumbed to it myself in the end. And even though I didn’t see Princess Aurora, Paige bought me an Aurora pin on the second day I stayed home with Mark. The poor boy had an ear infection in each ear.