Passing by

Richard and I often lament the opportunities we pass by as we travel, such as the Grand Canyon, Hoover Dam, and even the ubiquitous jerky stands and a quirky ostrich farm or rock shop.

We drive near the Hoover Dam several times a year. Since the bypass was constructed, there is a walkway spanning the canyon which we have never tried… because we’re in a hurry to get home to start the laundry and check our email or something. Somehow these things feel so petty when you begin to walk across the bridge, feeling the swaying and vibrations from traffic and catching the gusts of wind. At least this is what I think I would have felt if I hadn’t been taking care of our dog while the rest of the family had the adventure. I’m not bitter. Heights grow more terrifying with time. And I’m old. There’s nothing like heights to reaffirm that.

I drive though desolate scenes every day, but even here, the desert reminds me that there is depth and beauty for those who look. A coyote runs out in front of the car; a bull emerges near the railroad tracks on a foggy morning; an owl sits calmly on the power line as we race past it to church activities in the evening. Each of these sitings has left me inexplicably rejuvenated.

The key is to keep looking, even when the desert seems so, so barren, because I’m quite certain that it is wonder that rejuvenates and enlivens our souls.

There and Back Again

Paige and Richard at Zion National Park

 

We went away for the weekend. It was a Hobbit-like journey in its surprises and sudden departure. We came back more wise, weathered, and with treasures, too. I spent time in St George, Utah with the women in my family doing temple work, shopping, sewing, watching episodes of Cranford, eating salads, and enjoying Haagen Dazs. Richard and the kids set off on adventures at Zion National Park.

 

Timothy and Grandpa Ross at Zion
Paige, Timothy, and Daniel on the trail
Lost and Found!

After Richard and the kids returned, the kids, wide-eyed told me that Mark had been separated from the group for a while and was lost. He had a walkie-talkie and listened to instructions to yell so he could be found.

Mark said, “Mom, I was lost on Mount Zion.”

I asked,”And what did you learn from your experience?”

“Stay with the Pack!” he exclaimed.

Richard, never letting Mark out of his hands again.

On our return, we merged into our usual activities without much ado. The only hiccup was having to stay up until midnight so we could register Paige for EFY (Especially For Youth camp at BYU) at the first opportunity. Paige has given up on BYU Ballet Intensives. We have not been very happy with them for the past two years.

Let me explain EFY registration to you: Think early. You’ve got to get on the preregistration list in the fall. They will tell you the earliest time you can register, and it’s always some date in January at midnight. (We didn’t think early enough.) Think often. If you don’t get the location and dates you want, check the website often for cancellations. We didn’t get the date we wanted, but the next morning before seminary we checked the website and seized a new single opening on a better date. Hooray!

It seems that all we do lately is add activities to the calendar. We’re currently booked through August.

Winner!

Tim is a member of a large Cub Scout Pack and there is a lot of competition. Timothy’s dome, exposed engine, and lightning on red design really impressed the crowd. Decided by vote by families and Cubs, Timothy received one of the two trophies offered at the pinewood derby:

Nice work, Timothy and Dad!

Timothy the Cub Scout

Timothy has been a busy Cub Scout this month. One morning he took a break from school to lead the pledge at a community breakfast. The color guard was the ROTC from a local high school. It was impressive and quiet Timothy’s voice was clear and strong.

January is also the month of Pinewood Derby preparation. Preparing wheels, axles, and designing a car take a lot of time.

Our kitchen table has been a work bench for the past few weeks. Timothy and Richard finished the car last night.

Wish us luck tomorrow at the Pinewood Derby. His car looks great.

Jobs, not Chores

Around our house we do JOBS, not CHORES. I find that names carry a lot of significance. It’s better be employed in a job than a chore. One implies importance and meaning; the other implies drudgery.

But doggy pick-up truly is a chore. Notice the improvised gas mask.

Running the electric blower is the favorite outdoor job. It’s loud for little ears, so Mark chooses his red ear protection and he’s ready to go.

Here’s the list of the jobs the kids do on Saturdays:

bedrooms: change sheets, clean, dust, and vacuum

help clean bathrooms

vacuum and dust family and living rooms

help with dishes

dust mop the hallways

clean, dust, and vacuum school room

clean up patio and lawn areas

help in the garden or other outdoor tasks

doggy clean up (we usually pay 10 cents per… you know)

wash windows

put away laundry

fold towels or help with socks

One of Richard’s coworkers gave him a Wii because she felt sorry for us, the only family on the planet without computer games. It is not something we planned on purchasing, but we decided that since we have one, we will let the kids play it one day per week (Saturdays) after the jobs are finished.

I hope the Wii doesn’t take over our lives.

I worry that it will.

I really don’t like the Wii.

Our Christmas time Baby

Timothy celebrates a birthday on Christmas week. I have a good friend who has a theory that people most enjoy the season in which they were born. If this is true, it wouldn’t be difficult for Timothy to love his birthday season with its generosity of spirit, lights, and hot cocoa. However, having a birthday so close to Christmas, it is a challenge to organize a party. Our solution for the past few years has been to leave the party games and food to Peter Piper Pizza.

I embroidered a hat for each guest.

Timothy’s friends ranged in age from 5 to 15. Timothy is irresistible; he is handsome, brave, generous, quiet, a good listener, funny, and a very good friend.

Games and pizza made for some happy friends.

 

 

Christmas memories

I think we will remember this Christmas for all the company we kept. In the week leading up to Christmas, we stretched ourselves and visited folks, went caroling (I played the fiddle); we threw two birthday parties, and were lucky to see Sarah and Bryan. We finished a puzzle during their visit.

Here we are at Christmas dinner, the kids at the bar and the adults at the table. We had the missionaries join us.

The missionaries were good to play with our boys.

Christmas details

The greeting

cards have all been sent,

The Christmas rush is through…

(Are you singing that Carpenters song yet?)

We’ve spent the past few days finishing up Christmas details.

We even made some goodies for the neighbors, despite my plans to skip it.

When you hear the call to bake, you’ve got to bake; homemade toffee is always a good idea.

I entered the world of cellophane wrapping and I’m never going back. It’s the lovely detail I’ve been missing.

Each year we make a list of things we want to do to celebrate Christmas. Here’s an excerpt from our list:

Go caroling

View Christmas lights

Watch It’s A Wonderful Life

Decorate small gingerbread houses

Finish reading The Book of Mormon by Dec 31st.

Watch Scrooge with Alastair Sim, hiding from scary parts.

Make the Annual Christmas Video; record piano performances & dances.

Watch the Mormon Tabernacle Choir and Kings Singers concert (especially Oh Holy Night)

eggnog

eggnog

chocolate

 

A few snapshots of an unforgettable evening

 


Surrounded by friends, we watched Paige’s dance studio perform The Nutcracker this weekend. I decided that it’s better to watch her when I’m not looking through a camera, so I don’t have many photos, and I have no photos of three of her numbers. I lived the experience instead of trying to preserve it and share it, because ballet is very emotional and best enjoyed live.

 

 

We loved the snowflakes.

Paige closed the first act with this pose and snow falling all around her. The show could have ended there because it was so beautiful.

Richard and Daniel were on the technical crew this year. Daniel manned the spotlight and Richard filmed the performance.

Sarah and Bryan were able to come. It’s nice to have family to cheer you on.

Making up for lost opportunities

In 2010, we went on FOUR vacations. This year we have had ONE vacation.

Timothy’s last Wolf requirement was to visit someplace historical or important in the community. I couldn’t believe it. Since he turned 8, we haven’t taken part in ONE of a series of ubiquitous opportunities in every child’s life to visit a police or fire station, town hall, or historical site.

So at the end of 2011, we’re trying to make up for it. Here are some photos of our trip to Golf -n- Stuff.

Daniel was on a winter camp out with the Scouts and Paige decided she’d rather stay home and do chemistry and math homework.

Sigh. Childhood ends too soon.

Who is more excited, Richard or Mark?

Watch out for my son. I’ve decided to rename him Butch because he’s so tough.

A water fight in 40 degree temperatures?

Oh, why not?!