A New Feature

My voice is small and my influence is very narrow, but I have written some things on this blog about my Church that I hope will be helpful to someone. I have added a new page to my blog called, “Angela’s posts about our Church”. If you use a reader rather than visit my site, you will miss it, so I am telling you it’s there.

Here’s a link so you can look at it if you feel like it. It’s a collection of posts that I have already written. There’s nothing new here, but they are organized in one place for you.

Why is it important that I share this stuff? I don’t know. I just feel like doing it. That is all for today.

A kid update

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Timothy finished his stint as a safety patrol volunteer at his school. He received a Twix bar which he added to his enormous stash of candy acquired at school. In the past 8 days, he has been skiing 4 times. He is reading something with a huge salamander monster illustrated on the cover. He is devastated that his friend from school will be leaving for a year. He’s good with fractions and only asked me for help with maybe one homework problem this week. He’s really sounding good on his piano pieces, but he’s not enthusiastic about practicing. He should finish earning enough money to buy the Lego set he wants this week. I ordered it and it has been sitting unopened on the shelf for a month, taunting him.

Mark has skied 2 times this week. He’s reading Harry Potter #4, Runaway Ralph by Beverly Cleary, Hard Luck (Diary of a Wimpy Kid), and an Ed Emberly thumb print art book. We spent an evening making thumb print animals and faces. He spent the morning in an indoor tent full of pillows, stuffed animals and books. He spent his hard earned cash on a book called Potterwookie, which has elements of Harry Potter and Star Wars in a Diary of a Wimpy Kid type format. He and Timothy can quote the The Lego Movie’s best lines even though they only saw it once. I can’t quote anything but, “Spaceship!”

Daniel made a video presentation for a group project at school. He edited and produced the movie with Richard’s software almost on his own. The middle school critics gave it 4 stars. Daniel has skied 4 times this week, too. I have no idea what he is reading, but it’s from a teacher’s classroom library. He played the cello in a concert at the high school. My favorite piece was a Brandenburg concerto. He helped Richard install a new fence post since we lost several in a recent wind storm. My favorite piece to hear him play on the piano lately is The Maple Leaf Rag, although if I am in a brooding mood, I enjoy hearing him play Chopin’s Prelude in G Minor. He spends his free time watching Piano Guys videos.

Paige finished an art project using colored pencils. It’s two portraits, one of a porcelain doll’s face and one of her own face. I haven’t seen the finished product, but she took a picture of it for me. She took a math final and stressed over DBQ essay in English. She went on a field trip to the Springville Art Museum and the BYU Art Museum on Friday. She’s playing Reverie by Debussy and Humoresque by Timothy Brown? for judges next week. She spends most of her time in her room doing homework. We went shopping for a frame for one of her pieces of artwork last Saturday and wow, I love how it looks in a frame.

This time next month they will be working on new piano pieces, no longer skiing, and on to other adventures. They are great students, talented and expressive pianists, and involved in so many things. Posts like this help me to capture some details before they are gone.

Dinnertime Conversation of the Week

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Mark met a girl at school last year who took an active interest in figuring out why I don’t have a job like her mom. She has talked to me about it and scolded me for just staying home. During our conversations, I have learned that I am hearing her father’s opinions (or her interpretation of his opinions) through her. At school she tells Mark that her family is rich and that she owns 50 horses.

Last night, Mark asked us, “So how DO you get rich?”

He had been thinking… If this little girl at school was rich, it must be because both of her parents work. He gently suggested that I could get a job.

Wealth, to Mark, we discovered, would mean having more video games.

That’s so funny that he thinks I would spend my paycheck on video games. Ha! Regardless of our wealth, I will continue to be the major impediment to a life of video game ecstasy in the lives of my children, for which they will thank me someday, but not today.

I think there are things we can do to teach the value of each person’s contributions in our family. I think we do this through assigning jobs to our children and Working Beside Them. We can show appreciation verbally for jobs well done. As a homemaker, I can express the joy this brings to me and the appreciation I have for Richard who makes our comfortable life possible. And we can be kind to those who belittle our efforts.

Now, let me say unequivocally that I am thrilled with the educational and other opportunities that are available to women. I treasure the fact that the backbreaking work and domestic drudgery required of women has been reduced in much of the world because of modern conveniences and that women are making such magnificent contributions in every field of endeavor. But if we allow our culture to reduce the special relationship that children have with mothers and grandmothers and others who nurture them, we will come to regret it.

 

-Elder Quentin L. Cook, Ensign, November 2013

Recipe for a good day

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It’s that difficult week after Daylight Savings begins. I have been dragging myself out of bed in the mornings and having difficulty adjusting to an earlier bedtime.

Add to that fatigue an early morning blizzard as I drove the kids to school. I knew that I would need to employ my happy skills because happiness wasn’t going to be automatic today.

I took a few seconds to look at the beauty of the individual branches covered in snow.

I snickered at the robin in my tree that was just as puffy as can be, trying to stay warm.

I wore a polka dot dress.

I took a picture of those deceptively delicate crocuses in the yard, covered with snow.

I checked on the seeds I planted indoors and found some sprouts!

I let drivers merge in front of me.

I sliced up gorgeous strawberries for dinner.

I ate a Girl Scout cookie or two.

The happy skills worked. It was a good day.

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Can you spot Mr. Puffy Robin?

28 miles

I have no big projects that I am working on lately, unless you count spring cleaning. I’m not even tackling any difficult books right now.

That is okay. Sometimes I run myself thin because completing big projects means I am making progress, right?

Not really.

I think that if I were to look at the little things I try to do each day, I would see that these are the source of real progress.

For instance, I biked 28 miles last week. I didn’t do it all at once. It took 4 exercise sessions to make it. I am no athlete, but 28 miles is pretty far! I just chose to exercise 4 times.

I have a goal to read a chapter of The Book of Mormon each day. It is such a minimal amount, really, but since January 1, I have read 159 pages. At this rate, I could complete the Book of Mormon, Doctrine and Covenants, Pearl of Great Price, and be well into the Bible by the end of the year.

I have a goal to practice the violin several days a week, but I am failing. Perhaps I need this reminder that small, consistent efforts really can produce results.

The other thing I need to do is make a set time to practice. Consistency demands structure.

I guess we’re all working on a few big projects little bit each day. We become the kind of people we create with our small, consistent efforts.

Grace

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Everyone is home on this Sunday afternoon enjoying individual pursuits. There is sweet piano music echoing through the house. Thoughts from church this morning rise to the surface as I take some time to rest. I am grateful for the Savior, and that His grace carries us through difficulties. I am glad to know that the gift of grace is just that: a gift, not earned by me, but it’s up to me to accept that gift.

When I obey the commandments I show that I accept the gift.

When I repent I show that the gift is appreciated.

When I help others I show that the gift has changed me.

Nothing I do will repay the gift of the Savior, but through his grace and my obedience (acceptance of His laws) I know that I can be perfected in Him.

Be Kind

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It is kind to share your repairman skills.

One night for Family Home Evening last month, Tim taught a lesson about choosing to be kind and a good neighbor. He pulled out his carefully curated Lego characters and some pieces for two teams to create some situations where (Lego) people were being kind.

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It is kind to help in a rescue.
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It is kind to take time to play.
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It is kind to help someone load their trailer. It is kind to put out a fire inadvertently caused by a flame-spewing segway.

The beauty of this lesson was the good time we all had together. We laughed and cheered for one another. We needed that.

Taking a meal to someone

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Here are some things I have learned about delivering meals to people.

Disposable pans are a blessing because there is little cleanup and the people are usually sick, grieving, or too stretched to keep track of your dishes. I keep a stack of foil pans in the pantry. You could consider providing paper plates, too.

The visit you make when you deliver a meal may be just as important as the food. They may need to talk or want you to help them with a task around the house. Most people won’t volunteer information without you asking how you can help. Not everyone will be chatty or want you to stay. They may want privacy or they may be embarrassed about their need and want you to leave quickly. The idea is to be flexible and aware.

For families with teenagers, you need a lot more food than you might think. Mashed potatoes, pasta of any kind, and rice are filling and universally liked. Women tend to get excited when you include good fresh vegetables. Everyone loves fresh fruit salads. I usually include rolls or bread with each meal because even picky eaters will eat bread.

It’s so important to find out if there are food allergies. It’s good to remember that people in bed really need the fiber and nutrition from fruits and vegetables.

If they are receiving meals from people over many days, don’t try to give more food than can be eaten in one sitting. I have seen refrigerators full of unwanted leftovers when I have visited the sick.

Here are some of my favorite menus for delivering to others. Everything is easy to transport in disposable pans. I put soups in Mason jars.

  • pork tenderloin sliced and fanned out over mashed potatoes with fresh green beans on the side
  • lasagna, salad, garlic bread
  • pulled pork sandwiches, BBQ sauce, baked beans, vegetables, apple crisp
  • chicken enchiladas, quinoa, bean, and rice salad or cornbread, fresh fruit, and fresh salsa
  • spaghetti and meatballs,  mixed vegetables, and rolls
  • Mexicali pie (taco meat, beans, tomatoes, corn with cornbread baked on top), and fruit
  • butternut bisque, turkey and ham sandwich on a loaf of french bread, and spinach salad
  • Shake and Bake pork chops, mashed potatoes, vegetables, and brownies
  • broccoli soup, homemade wheat bread, and fruit salad.

If they have young children, avoid casseroles and most mixtures. Kids prefer to eat their foods separately and if it can be dipped in ketchup or dressing, all the better.

Carry your food on a tray or cookie sheet so if it spills, it won’t ruin your car interior.

Have your family help you prepare it and deliver it with you if it’s appropriate. This way they can have the experience of giving with you.

Try to make enough of everything so you have a meal to come home to. You’d think that would be obvious, but I’ve not always been good at this. It really is easier to make two meals at once than to come home to a messy kitchen and have to begin again for your own family. Sometimes my family doesn’t eat the same thing I prepare for another family because I don’t have enough ingredients. That’s okay.

Other than telling your family, keep your service a secret.

I believe that food is one way we can make our love visible. People feel remembered and loved when you take time to make food for them.

An important lesson

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Evolution of a lesson: complex to simple

I am teaching an important topic in Young Women tomorrow. I have spent so much time working on it and thinking about it. I read all of the suggested lesson materials, scripture references, and watched a handful of Bible movies. I read General Conference talks with the girls in mind.

Then I decided that I should anticipate questions they might have. I listed about 30 questions. I chose 22 of those questions and found scripture references to help answer each question. I typed up this list of 22 questions and scriptures to give to the girls. After printing them out and gluing a picture of the Savior on each copy, I finally realized that I had gotten carried away. WHO would take the time read 80 square inches of words in a small font that are only meant to make them THINK?

Planet Angie felt like a lonely place right then.

My hours of preparation are now whittled down to asking the girls to consider one question of their choice from only five possibilities. After the girls have had a chance to read scriptures and other materials about their topic and ponder for a bit, we’ll sit in a circle and share what we have learned and felt.

And then we’ll talk about how their understanding can influence the choices they make this week.

I will consider it a success if the girls can remember one thing that we talked about one week later.

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