{"id":12338,"date":"2016-07-19T16:56:19","date_gmt":"2016-07-19T22:56:19","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.angelaross.net\/blog\/?p=12338"},"modified":"2016-07-20T17:15:57","modified_gmt":"2016-07-20T23:15:57","slug":"the-vibrant-lady-on-the-running-board","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/www.angelaross.net\/blog\/2016\/07\/the-vibrant-lady-on-the-running-board\/","title":{"rendered":"The Vibrant Lady on the Running Board"},"content":{"rendered":"

The first memory I have of Grandma Stewart is waiting for her to arrive at her home from Girls Camp. My family had arrived in Sparks, Nevada, from Utah and we were so anxious to see her. My brothers and I\u00a0explored her manicured back yard, the barrels full of flowers, a neatly painted storage shed, and patio chairs with squishy floral cushions to pass the time. We moved to the front yard, and eventually,\u00a0we saw the truck drive up with Grandma. It was an enormous white truck, and\u00a0when it pulled up, she jumped out onto the\u00a0running board on the passenger side, and waved\u00a0at us with a big smile. She was in a sweatshirt and had a bandanna tied around her hair, but she made quite an\u00a0entrance into my memory.<\/p>\n

\"1-Gr<\/a>\"1-1975<\/a>\"1-Angie<\/a><\/p>\n

Of course she was there long before I had memories. I see pictures of her holding me as an infant, and me rifling through her kitchen drawer full of plastic bags before I was a year old.\u00a0One picture shows 4 generations of women, my Great-grandmother Spencer, Grandma Stewart, my mom, and me as a newborn. Now that my grandmothers\u00a0are\u00a0gone, I continue to feel the physical, spiritual, and emotional strength they carried with them. I was born into a family of strong, powerful, vibrant women. Their influence held me before I had memories, through the growing up years, and into adulthood. At first I only noticed superficial things about my grandmother, such as\u00a0painted nails, lots of laughter, traditions, and best behavior, but these were just the trappings of my grandmother’s strength; and she instilled this strength in me\u00a0each time we met.<\/p>\n

Grandmother JoAnn Stewart was sparkly but modest, outgoing but private; babies often cried when she\u00a0held them, but she was the first one to help out and welcome them to the world. She walked so quickly we couldn’t keep up, but was continually present in my life.<\/span><\/p>\n

\"OLYMPUS<\/a><\/p>\n

“Angie needs to learn to do the dishes without complaining,” I overheard my mom say to Grandma Stewart on the phone.<\/p>\n

The next week when Grandma arrived, she did the dishes with me for days, both of us in yellow gloves. She showed me that I could scrub the silverware with the ridges of my glove. She made it fun.<\/p>\n

She celebrated people. More than once she paraded me down\u00a0the carpeted MGM Grand Hotel staircase, singing, “Here she is, Miss America,” reminding me to look at myself in the mirrors that surrounded us.\u00a0When my little sister was born, I was sure I didn’t want a sister, but my grandma\u00a0taught my siblings and me\u00a0a song to sing on the\u00a0front porch steps to welcome her. I hope my grandmother\u00a0saw me tuck a small cross-stitched piece of fabric in my new baby sister’s room, welcoming her to our family. My grandmother helped me feel excited to have a sister.<\/p>\n

\"1-1984-12<\/a><\/p>\n

I saw her care for her mother, my Great-grandma Spencer, during an extended illness. She gently helped her mother turn over, alleviating pressure on her painful bedsores. I was a little girl, and\u00a0watching someone care for someone so ill made a huge impression on me. She came to town each time my mom had a baby and took care of us. Years later,\u00a0I happened upon her after she\u00a0brought\u00a0my Grandpa Stewart home from dialysis, taking a quick nap on her couch. It was the only time I saw her take a rest. She must have been exhausted so many times as she cared for Grandpa and visited with the line of patients on dialysis, but she lived up to the phrase she kept framed in her kitchen: “Keep Calm and Carry On.”<\/p>\n

She kept a small Christmas tree in one of the bedrooms in the house with Marine and patriotic decorations on it. She told me that she was so proud of each\u00a0child’s\u00a0service and sacrifices. She said that she felt David’s service to his country, and Carol and Doug’s service in the Church were equally important. I have shared her lesson with others. “There are many ways to do good in the world,” I say, and think of her.<\/p>\n

I saved all of her cards and letters. Her letters were short, rarely about her, and almost always mentioned Grandpa or the cousins. There are no dates, either. I don’t think\u00a0that she\u00a0kept a journal. As I read through her mail to me, however, I see that she did take\u00a0time to write about\u00a0important things.<\/p>\n

“We’re thinking of you today. Congratulations on your baptism!” (1982)<\/p>\n

“Just hang tight until this school bit is over and it will pay off.”<\/p>\n

“Hope life is wonderful today–after all–we only take one day at a time and do the best we can–”<\/p>\n

“There is nothing as good as a good marriage. Make yours good<\/em>!” (1995)<\/p>\n

“I encourage you two to find and cultivate good friends who add so much to your lives.” (1996)<\/p>\n

“Grandpa is so good to me.”<\/p>\n

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She loved and welcomed Richard. She loved and welcomed our children. When\u00a0we visited her home with our little children, she handed Paige a big flag and they paraded around her backyard with patriotic gifts on their heads and in their hands.<\/p>\n

\"OLYMPUS<\/a><\/p>\n

\"OLYMPUS<\/a><\/p>\n

She was always cleaning out her house, sending things she didn’t need to us. Her rooms were uncluttered and tastefully decorated. She kept heirlooms close to her, I think because she loved beauty and they reminded her of\u00a0her family. She loved deeply and privately.<\/p>\n

The last day I saw her, I played the violin at Grandpa Stewart’s funeral.\u00a0I was playing\u00a0Auld Lang Syne<\/em>, a song she loved, which celebrates days gone by, old times, and even “Once upon a time<\/em>.”<\/p>\n

Once upon a time<\/em>, I had a grandmother who showed me how to be beautiful, and\u00a0shared her traditions and laughter. When I need to be strong, my Grandma Stewart is one of the women I think of. The thought of her makes me want to square my shoulders and face things.\u00a0She didn’t\u00a0want all of the fuss or attention that comes with death. She would be uncomfortable hearing how her life was like a light to us; how we thrived in the family traditions of parades, waving dishtowels, tubing down the river, playing the candy game, setting out fancy napkins, and laughing. But as I write this, I feel her strength and I know she understands all the good that she has done for us, and that\u00a0influence remains\u00a0long after a person dies.<\/p>\n

Her influence will be felt when I take time to care for someone who is sick, elderly, or lonely. It will be felt when I decorate for a dinner party and make celebrations for simple, joyful things. It will be felt as I face difficult days, remaining calm, and as I show respect for others.\u00a0I can’t remember the\u00a0things she said to me as much as I can hear her laughter in my memory. Perhaps\u00a0that’s the tribute that would mean the most to her.\"1-2013-03-24<\/a> \"3-2013-03-24<\/a> \"4-2013-03-24<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

The first memory I have of Grandma Stewart is waiting for her to arrive at her home from Girls Camp. My family had arrived in Sparks, Nevada, from Utah and we were so anxious to see her. My brothers and I\u00a0explored her manicured back yard, the barrels full of flowers, a neatly painted storage shed, … Continue reading The Vibrant Lady on the Running Board<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[31,11,13,20,4],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-12338","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-angies-memoir-project","category-extended-family","category-family-time","category-life-according-to-angela","category-motherhood"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.angelaross.net\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/12338","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.angelaross.net\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.angelaross.net\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.angelaross.net\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.angelaross.net\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=12338"}],"version-history":[{"count":17,"href":"http:\/\/www.angelaross.net\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/12338\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":12370,"href":"http:\/\/www.angelaross.net\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/12338\/revisions\/12370"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.angelaross.net\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=12338"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.angelaross.net\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=12338"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.angelaross.net\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=12338"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}