{"id":11787,"date":"2016-09-08T06:23:44","date_gmt":"2016-09-08T12:23:44","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.angelaross.net\/blog\/?p=11787"},"modified":"2016-09-08T08:53:16","modified_gmt":"2016-09-08T14:53:16","slug":"marriage-advice","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/www.angelaross.net\/blog\/2016\/09\/marriage-advice\/","title":{"rendered":"Marriage"},"content":{"rendered":"<p style=\"text-align: justify;\"><a href=\"http:\/\/www.angelaross.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/04\/1-DSC_1084.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-12008\" src=\"http:\/\/www.angelaross.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/04\/1-DSC_1084.jpg\" alt=\"1-DSC_1084\" width=\"650\" height=\"434\" srcset=\"http:\/\/www.angelaross.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/04\/1-DSC_1084.jpg 650w, http:\/\/www.angelaross.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/04\/1-DSC_1084-300x200.jpg 300w, http:\/\/www.angelaross.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/04\/1-DSC_1084-449x300.jpg 449w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 650px) 100vw, 650px\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\">I have decided to share a few things Richard and I discussed recently about what makes our marriage work. Really, this list could be summed up in two words, love and respect. But in more detail, we try to&#8230;<\/span><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\">Avoid\u00a0talking negatively about our spouse to others.\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\">Support one<\/span>\u00a0other in the pursuit of personal interests and\u00a0development of\u00a0talents.<\/li>\n<li>Maintain a time when electronic devices are off-limits when we are together.<\/li>\n<li>Do a variety of things together: work, play, worship, learn.<\/li>\n<li>Find identity and interests apart from our children.<\/li>\n<li>Turn to our spouse, not friends and family for support first.<\/li>\n<li>Avoid keeping score on time, activities, obligations, and money.<\/li>\n<li>Greet one another warmly at the end of the day. Give a kiss goodbye.<\/li>\n<li style=\"text-align: left;\">Speak to one another with respect and kindness.<\/li>\n<li style=\"text-align: left;\">Honor traditional roles. We don&#8217;t resent them; we find ways to make them &#8220;ours&#8221; by using our talents and interests as we fulfill them.<\/li>\n<li style=\"text-align: left;\">Help one another in all things. This requires education, skill, and sacrifice.<\/li>\n<li style=\"text-align: left;\">Continue to work on things that aren&#8217;t happy parts of our marriage. We go to bed unsettled sometimes, realizing we can face things with a clearer head the next day.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Marriage has a private life in our hearts and minds. Its success seems to come with a conscious effort to school our thoughts and actions. Feelings of love\u00a0are a natural result of kindness and loyalty, but real love is so much better than infatuation. It is knowing we have a best friend. It is being a best friend. Sometimes our thinking must change if we are to learn to love truly and deeply. We are still learning.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>I have decided to share a few things Richard and I discussed recently about what makes our marriage work. Really, this list could be summed up in two words, love and respect. But in more detail, we try to&#8230; Avoid\u00a0talking negatively about our spouse to others.\u00a0 Support one\u00a0other in the pursuit of personal interests and\u00a0development &hellip; <a href=\"http:\/\/www.angelaross.net\/blog\/2016\/09\/marriage-advice\/\" class=\"more-link\">Continue reading <span class=\"screen-reader-text\">Marriage<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[5],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-11787","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-marriage"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.angelaross.net\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/11787","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.angelaross.net\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.angelaross.net\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.angelaross.net\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.angelaross.net\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=11787"}],"version-history":[{"count":12,"href":"http:\/\/www.angelaross.net\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/11787\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":12574,"href":"http:\/\/www.angelaross.net\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/11787\/revisions\/12574"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.angelaross.net\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=11787"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.angelaross.net\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=11787"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.angelaross.net\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=11787"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}